No Friends At Work

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Weve all been there. Youre new on the job and everything seems off: your clutter-free desk is not quite your home away from home; you dont know all the inside jokes; and no one told you about Sheila in Accounting (and how you shouldnt ask about that Cat thing).
It might be against your more reserved nature, but sometimes all it takes to make a new friend is to say hello. Sounds silly, but people starting a new job are sometimes too afraid, or too self-conscious, to say hello to their new colleagues.

On my first day of work at my first job out of college, I mouthed the words I am a financial analyst and told myself to feel grateful for landing a job in a recession. But in meetings about audits and quarterly results my mind wandered to happier days when I was a creative writing major devouring David Sedaris essays. Staring at the sea of beige cubicles, wearing a pencil skirt and stiff-collared top, I couldnt shake the feeling that somewhere along the way I had made a wrong turn.


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On the positive side, this could actually be a good sign the environment is happy and non-toxic so people dont feel a need to rush into work friendships to prove that they fit in, relationships can just develop naturally. Ive worked at more aggressively welcoming places and it often turned out that if you didnt find a clique quickly, management would decide you didnt fit in and it wouldnt end well.
Another point is that IME sometimes coworkers who are overloading you with attention and questions about yourself right off the bat dont have the best motives.

Also, reach out and share with each other. The Buffer team does an amazing job of connecting every day through sharing not only their work accomplishments but also their self-improvement goals, from sticking with fitness regimes to learning to code. These points provide fodder for rich conversations and opportunities to show incredible support, helping to create a close, nourishing work life that permits people to be vulnerable yet supported and always aiming higher.
Alternatively, take a few moments throughout the day to take some deep breaths.

These days, being the right person for a job tends to involve a lot more than just showing up with a strong skill set and a passion for the field.
After a few weeks at the new gig, Tim and I met for drinks, and I asked him how things were going. Was he liking it as much as hed anticipated?
He was working on some exciting projects and he had a ton of responsibilityfar more than his former organization had allowed. But, he admitted, he was eating lunch by himself at his desk every day while a group of his co-workers went out without him.

I did it because I am lonely at work, and staring at the ceiling for an hour was about as much as I could face. I am a different generation to my immediate colleagues, and Im their manager. They dont want to hear about my troubles; they dont want me being the embarrassing old bloke inveigling my way into their 6pm drinks.
The result is that I feel almost entirely alone at work. Theres no one at the place where I spend much of my waking life to whom I can turn when I want to confide my fears, to moan about the upper echelons, to worry away about whats happening at home.

I grappled with mixed emotions. I felt more satisfaction from this short amateur film than I had ever felt from financeand I sadly wondered if Id ever feel this way again.
The storyteller in me screamed that this was a very obvious sign that I was in the wrong profession. David Sedaris whiney voice told me wake up to reality. Its time to be a real grownup and make hard decisions. Thats probably not something David Sedaris would say, but it helps to pretend hes guiding me.

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– want to add, a lot of people that are alone are alone because they are sick. This is what happened with me. If you are alone because you’re sick, then forget about all of the self-help books and start reading about health and nutrition. Be your own and get yourself better. Without your health you have nothing, so work on that first and foremost.


Slightly bored on a 6 hour morning watch. I get very sad, belittled and upset sometimes.


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This is my personal opinion about friends at the work place and if you are offended I don’t give a damn, its just my opinion, get over yourself.


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