Why Do I Have no Friends?
Whether I’m coaching people through shyness or having no friends, one of the first things I always say is it’s important to know the reason behind the problem. Asking why do I have no friends means you’re not in a great spot right now but you’re at least asking the right questions.
I think I like you already.
I’ve been coaching this kind of thing for years. Trying to get people to understand that half the battle is to get people to understand the why. Shyness and social anxiety cause loneliness and a lack of friends. These are learned behaviors that effect your life but once you understand the why behind them you can start to change these behaviors. If you really want to know why do I have no friends and want to see a change then consider taking our online shyness training course.
I know what it’s like you feel lonely. I’ve asked myself in the past “why do I have no friends?” and it actually had an easy answer. The short version was it’s a learned behavior. But before we waste time looking at the actual reasons behind you having no friends – I want to make sure you know you can do something about it.
But you have to be willing to make a change.
It blows me away how some people will work so hard to avoid the discomfort of making change.
If you’re reading this page then I know you. I know what you’re going through.
You have no friends, or maybe you have a few.. No social life. And you’re not happy about it.
Elsewhere on the site I’ve already gone over my story of how I changed my life. And there’s more than a few handy tips you can start using today.
Whether you’re looking to find a girlfriend or make friends online or just build a complete social life from scratch you don’t jump from 0 to 100 in one go. There’s steps you take from A to B. But the problem is there’s never been a cohesive list of the kind of steps you can use, mostly just a lot of bad advice.
Why Am I lonely? Why Do I have no friends? The real question you should be asking is what can you do about it.
The real question is what you are you going to do about it?
There are two types of people in this situation.
There are the ones who are satisfied in just knowing that it’s possible to make a difference. Today I have no friends but it’s OK because I can always come back to this page and change it later.
It’s pretty human to want to avoid change. The sad part is the vast majority of people who have read through the site will actually have this reaction.
The even sadder part is how easy it is to change.
I know it doesn’t seem that way but I mean it when I say in just a few days you can have your social skills improved and your social life rolling.
I can’t say I really blame you though.
Because I was also in that spot.
Having no friends and no social life through most of university I tried pretty much everything. Again, I’ve already told you what I used to try and why they didn’t work back when we were talking about how I had no social life in the first place.
But what I didn’t tell you is that I’d given up.
For a long time (we’re talking around 9 months to a year easily) I figured I couldn’t change. I didn’t bother trying. I barely left the house and continued to just sit around and waste my life away.
Yeah, good plan.
Of course things only got worse because your social skills only get worse not to mention the whole being depressed about having no friends and no life.
So I’d zone out when people tell me “new” bits of advice. My eyes would glaze over when a website or forum post told me they had some secret answer I hadn’t tried before.
I’d pretty much had enough by this point. I made the mistake of thinking I was a shy person and that was it. A point of view I now despise.
How I Had No Friends and How it Changed
So I told you I changed my circumstance and that I want to actually help you. So how did I actually do it?
Well it was a pretty standard Friday night for me. Sitting alone. Online. No friends to speak of so no social plans that night or for the rest of the weekend. For the rest of the week for that matter.
I can’t quite remember how I stumbled into Sean online. It might have just been a lucky click.
And I remember instantly putting my guard up. I saw something offering the same thing as everyone did. A change. He told me he’d change my life etc…
I’d heard it all before.
But he pretty quickly showed me a kitten.
That was different. I remember laughing because it was pretty unexpected.
Now, I’m not really a cat person. They’re a little anti-social for my liking.
But it caught my attention. And it turned out there was actually a reason behind it. Neuroplasticity (the foundation of his shyness system) was discovered (or more accurately is was proven) using an experiment with cats.
I’m still not a cat person but I’m glad I saw that cat.
This was someone doing something different.
I knew my social skills were lacking. But specifically what caught my eye were his sections on growing a social life from scratch and learning how to keep a conversation going.
On top of that he gave me a guarantee so all the risk was actually on him. All I really had to miss out on was another hour on Netflix so I went for it. I read through pretty much the entire course on that first night and took notes as I went.
To make it easier for you I’m even going to send you out my notes to try and get you the fastest results possible from using his system. This tailors it specifically for people who have no friends and no social life and want to change that as soon as possible.
That’s not to say his course normally can’t do that for you but I think the notes will help just speed it up. Certainly worked for me.
Now I can’t guarantee anything.
This system is the best thing I’ve ever seen to overcome shyness and allow you to make friends easily. The notes I’ll send you should make that even easier. But at the end of the day you’re only going to get what you put into it.
And that starts with actually trying now.
But what I can guarantee is you have nothing to lose. Sean will give you the same guarantee he gave me. You don’t like it? You don’t see results? You wuss out and don’t even bother trying?
Click a few buttons and you’re out of the system. He’ll even send you the refund.
Honestly though I’d be surprised if it came to that. Give it even half a chance. Heck go in the same way I did – cynical. If you try some of these techniques you’ll see what I did. This can work.
It worked for me. I’ve used it to help others. I know it can help you.
It can help you get out of the trap of having no friends. It can explode your social life. It can change your life.
Why Do I Have No Friends
The reason you have no friends? There’s no secret meaning or no hidden reasons.
It’s simply you haven’t learned the same social skills as people normally do at a younger age. Or, which also happens, you have and you’ve just lost them. In either case having no friends and feeling lonely can suck. Really suck. It can suck the fun and enjoyment out of life. But it’s really not that hard to sort.
This site is made for people who can say I want to make friends and that actually want to make a change in their social lives. If you’re going to hide from change and you’re just looking for something to make you feel better about not having no friends? You’re in the wrong place. I’m not here to make you feel better living with no social life and no friends – I’m here to start making a change in lives and to do that sometimes I need to share some harsh truths.
The system I just linked not only works your social skills overall but covers some basics such as building your social circle from scratch and keeping a conversation going with the “conversation threading” technique. If you have no friends then it’s simply because you haven’t clicked that link yet.
Why Do I Have no Friends Anymore
It might not be that there’s any problem with your social skills. Sometimes change of circumstances can lead to you just drifting apart from people. This is a pretty common one:
Why Do I Have no Friends to Hang Out With
Now don’t get me wrong here. I love the internet and I think it’s changed our lives very much for the better. And when it comes to shyness and having no friends it’s a great medium for learning to change that. But it does allow people who feel lonely to hide away somewhat. Here’s a video from someone in a similar position. If you’re asking why do I have no friends you might well spend too much time online.
And she raises a great point. People who don’t have friends don’t want to go out and meet more friends. Though I do disagree with the advice she gives and the advice she’s given. No “just say hi” is really bad advice, but she’s wrong when she says it’s hard to make friends. You just need to know what you’re doing (that’s where the training comes in). If you’re asking why do I have no friends then it might be useful to know there’s people just like you.
As someone who coaches a lot of people I can tell you first hand that there’s a lot more than you might think. But here’s a first hand account of someone openly saying I have no friends.
Why Do I Have no Friends in College?
College is a great example of a change of circumstances. I’ve had a lot of people ask me why do I have no friends in college. It’s one of the points in your life where it’s easy to meet people because everyone around you is meeting new people almost daily. But it can also be pretty daunting especially if you’re going in alone.
There might not be an issue with social skills here. It might just be that you need to get out, join some clubs and meet people. But if you’re asking why do I have no friends in college and you’ve been there a while you might want to take a look at the training course or our guide on I have no social life.
Why Do I Have no Energy to Hang out With People
I’ve already gone into the whole introversion and extraversion thing in the past. While there’s a lot of validity to it the idea of having ‘energy’ that you expend by being around people and then you need to ‘recharge by being alone’ is just junk. Take it from someone who felt like that in the past. It’s an excuse we tel ourselves.
You want to know why do I have no friends? You might well be using excuses like this.